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3 Ways to Apologize after an Argument with Mom when You’re Her Caregiver

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The more time you spend with another person, the more likely it will be that an issue arises between you and that individual. If you have been your mother’s caregiver for some length of time, especially if she requires a great level of assistance on a regular basis, tension can build over time.

When you have an argument, when things get to be too much, it can lead to anger, resentment, and saying things that you or she may regret. After a blowout with somebody you care about, it’s important to apologize. Even if you think you are completely right, most people would agree that saying bad things in the heat of the moment is simply not acceptable, but it happens all the time. We are fallible creatures and as a result need to offer forgiveness and apologize for things we do to hurt other people.

Below are three ways you can apologize to your aging mother when an issue arises:

1. Prepare a special dinner. Even if you already prepare meals for her as a part of being a caregiver, maybe you have a tendency to focus on basic, quick meals rather than something extravagant. Perhaps there is a particular type of food she enjoys most, yet you haven’t made it for her in a long time. This would be a good opportunity to say you’re sorry with some tasty food.

2. Invite her out for a day. It’s a great idea for aging seniors, especially those who may spend a significant amount of time at home alone to get outside every once in a while. Plan a day out, either to the park, an art gallery, a museum, or just to a local café where you could sit and have a nice conversation together.

3. Talk to her about professional home care providers. Even though you’re her caregiver at the moment, you may be overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. That could be one of the reasons why you lost your temper and said things you wish you could take back. You can’t take them back, but also realize those comments, that fight, or other issue isn’t going to negate a lifetime of a strong relationship you two built together.

However, the tension, stress, anxiety, and other issues that have built within your life that led to the problem between you and your mother could be a symptom of stress and anxiety of being her caregiver. You may not have a lot of time to focus on her needs and if so, suggest that she rely on a professional home care provider, at least for a couple of days a week. This would allow you to devote more of your time to the relationship rather than taking care of her directly.

If you or an aging loved one are in need of caregiver services in Great Neck, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!

Stephen Sternbach

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